The Seven(7) Biggest Predictors of Divorce

Aside from being life-changing, divorce is often a lengthy process. A divorce lawyer is perhaps the only person, aside from the couple themselves, to witness the oft-ugly nature of human detachment.  Nonetheless, these professionals possess a breadth of knowledge about this sensitive subject matter. For many divorced people, talking about their experience is anything but humorous. The same goes for divorce attorneys, who often bear the brunt of a couple’s past mistakes.

One former divorce lawyer put it this way:

When I began practicing, I realized something pretty quickly – I could do without the drama and bickering and baggage that people were bringing into their case. I found myself using my psychology skills just as much as my legal skills…I didn’t get the satisfaction…and I didn’t feel I was helping people in a positive way.”

So, why do nearly one-third of all marriages end in divorce? Some divorce attorneys around the globe were asked this question. The following were the top seven (7) contributors to failing marriages


At the risk of sounding explicitly palpable, good communication is extremely necessary in a marriage. There must be clearly defined common grounds. Communication is not about what is meant, it is about what is perceived. When this all-important communication factor deteriorates, it’s common for one or both partners to go silent.

According to divorce attorneys, this “silent treatment” occurs much more frequently within a failing marriage. Evra Lynn, among the most prominent divorce attorneys in America, states: “This is essentially the kiss of death for couples because it leads to feelings of resentment. Being able to work through issues that arise paves the way for resolution.”


Attempting to control one’s spouse, regardless of the matter at hand (e.g. staying out late, unkempt house, etc.), isn’t a good sign for the relationship. Couple this with the fact that controlling individuals rarely change their behavior, and it becomes apparent as to why cohabitation with such a person is tough.

Controlling money by denying the partner access to, or information about, bank accounts, credit lines, etc., can also contribute to an eventual divorce.


Ayo Lawanson.LLM a family lawyer, in an article written in Family Lawyer’s Magazine, states “In family law, addiction to alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors such as gambling are present in a significant amount of cases.”

Alcohol and drug addiction is a treatable condition; however, the number of untreated addicts far exceeds the rehabilitated. Addiction – and its negative consequences – is often too much for the other to handle.



Ideally, anything finance related is discussed prior to marriage, but many times it is not. Perhaps more damaging than any potential financial repercussions (e.g. difficulties obtaining a mortgage), is the perceived breach of trust.

During the marriage is when many money problems occur. Spending too much, making secret purchases, maxing out credit cards, late bills – all are potential reasons for one partner to consider divorce.


“Opposites attract” doesn’t necessarily translate into “Opposites stay attracted. Lisa Meyer, a divorce attorney in California, says “While it’s true that opposites attract, don’t assume the qualities you fell in love with are going to keep a marriage together.” Different personality types often enjoy different things. When there is a wide “interest gap” between two people, they’ll spend more time apart, which leads us to…


It is typical in marriage to experience polarizing emotions; among them is a sense of closeness and distance. When this dynamic subsists at reasonable intervals, it can actually be perceived as a good sign. The passion and genuine care for each other are often evident during these times.


“Family comes first” is a tried and true axiom of happy couples and families. When one half of the marriage suddenly becomes a workaholic, it may be a bad sign. The circumstances surrounding such behavior ultimately determines the relationship’s outcome.

Unsurprisingly, effective communication is vital; when the other half begins to spend a disproportionate amount of time at work, sans explanation, the chances of divorce increases significantly.



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